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Our ministers may legally perform all and any service performed by those
of other denominations; the marriage ceremony is one such service.
There are no special legal requirements for the ULC ministers; the only
requirements they must fulfill are those that the state and county in which
they reside sets for the ministers of all denominations and these vary from
state to state.
To be legal, the marriage must be recorded. There are, basically, two
systems for recording a marriage. (These sections refer primarily to
California. Ministers of other states should check their state Marriage Act
for corresponding sections.)
The first is that of the traditional State marriage. The betrothed
couple are required to have blood tests, apply for a marriage license, and
have a waiting period between the granting of the license and the marriage
itself. (By the way, your denomination is "Universal Life.") The minister
is then required, within three days of the ceremony, to return the license
to the appropriate government office.
This marriage is recorded and its record is a public document which is
available to anyone upon request.
The lesser known statutes od the law, Sections 4213 through 4215 of the
California Civil Code, Solemnization of the Marriage Act, "Confidential
Record of Church Marriage", allow a couple to be married without a blood
test and without a waiting period. And, most importantly, the kind of
record these sections require is confidential; it is not a public record and
no one, except the couple, can obtain a copy without a court order. This is
an example of the second system.
The confidential marriage is ideal for couples who have been living
together as though they were married and now want to solemnize their union.
The minister may obtain "Confidential Marriage" forms from the local
County Clerk's Office.
The State does not provide a marriage certificate with the marriage
license. A beautiful Certificate of Marriage from the Universal Life Church
will ever enhance the couple's memories of the ceremony, and we offer these
for use by all ministers. Sent with each certificate is a marriage record,
to be filled out and returned to International Headquarters directly
following the ceremony, where it will be kept as a permanent record of the
couple's church marriage. The Marriage Certificate is available from Inter-
national Headquarters. For each certificate requested we ask a free-will
donation of $3.00.
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THOUGHTS ON LOVE
Love is all you have to give,
So give it freely while you live.
It is the essence of brotherhood,
And that is why it's strong and good.
Love fills in all of the spaces.
Attracting and holding together all things,
An ultimate joy to all it brings.
Love once given is never really lost,
No matter in what direction it's tossed.
Love continues down thru the ages,
And its work could fill many pages.
Love makes everything come to pass,
Whether to one, or to the mass.
-- Dr. Dopn Grey, M.D.
DISSOLUTION OF MARRIAGE
The Universal Life Church believes the marriage vows pledged between man and
woman is a sacred lifetime contract. But the church also recognizes that is
two people feel that they can no longer live together as man and wife, and
by mutual agreement decide to dissolve their marriage contract, then this is
their privilege. The Universal Life Church believes that marriage is a
church matter and that if two people decide to separate, then this, too is a
church matter. The ULC will grant dissolutions of marriage for those
marriages which are recorded at International Headquarters ONLY.
A PERSONALIZED WEDDING CEREMONY
ULC ministers are able to make the union of two persons even more memorable
by providing a personalized wedding ceremony. Many couples today are
writing their own version of the marriage ceremony and with a ULC wedding
they need not stay within the guidelines of an established ceremony. The
ULC minister is free to cooperate to make each ceremony a very special
Most persons recognize the religious element in marriage and wish to carry
with them into the marriage the religious upbringing of their childhood.
Most churches approach marriage in the same fashion, but there are unique
characteristics of each of them that set them apart.
For example PROTESTANT ceremonies usually take place before the altar, with
the minister facing the bridal couple and the congregation. The minister
usually begins with a short sermon on the sacredness of married life, the
bride and the groom then exchange promises to "love, honor, and cherish"
each other as long as they both shall live, followed by the exchanging of
rings, and finally, the minister declares that they are "man and wife".
ROMAN CATHOLIC weddings are part of the ceremony of Nuptial Mass. At one
time, the Mass followed the wedding ceremony, but since 1964, the ceremony
takes place during the mass -- after the Gospel. During the wedding
ceremony, the priest instructs the couple and each expresses willingness to
marry the other, and the marriage vows are repeated after the priest. The
priest then confirms the marriage vows with the words "I join you together
in matrimony...". He sprinkles the couple with holy water and blesses the
rings. The ceremony ends with a series of prayers and blessings and the
mass then continues.
JEWISH wedding ceremonies usually take place under a special canopy. The
rabbi offers a series of seven special prayers, praising God and His
creations. Near the middle of the ceremony, he blesses some wine, and both
bride and groom drink from the same cup, followed by the appropriate vows.
At the end of the ceremony an empty wine glass is placed on the floor, and
the new husband smashes it with his foot to commemorate the destruction of
the Jewish Temple, and reminds the couple that marriage, too, might be
broken unless protected. Other people interpret this act as a reminder to
the couple that, even in the midst of their happiness, they must remember
that sadness can also enter life.
OTHER RELIGIOUS GROUPS have marriage ceremonies that differ from these. For
example, Quakers simply stand before the congregation and announce that they
intend to live together as husband and wife and then sign a marriage
document. Most Mormon weddings take place in Temples, and are accompanied
by lengthy ceremonies. Mormons believe that these marriages will be good,
not only "until death do you part" but for the next life as well.
Discuss with the couple what they, personally, would like. A few resources
available at the local library are:
"Underground Wedding Book", by Reed,
"The New Wedding", by K. Arisian,
"The Wedding Book", published by Seabury, and,
"Celebration", by McCafferty, published by Pocket Books.
A TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE CEREMONY
(From the Alabama Book of Legal Forms)
Marriage is an institution of divine appointment and is commended as
honorable among all men. It is the most important step in life and should
not therefore be entered into unadvisedly or lightly, but discreetly and
In this estate these two persons now come to be joined. If any person can
show cause why they may not lawfully be joined together, let him now speak
or else thereafter forever hold his peace.
(Addressing the couple the one performing the ceremony continues):
I solemnly require and charge you both, as you hope for joy and peace in the
married state, if either of you know any just cause why you may not be
lawfully joined together in matrimony, you do now confess.
It is then your will to proceed?
(The parties must now join right hands):
To the man: Do you, sir, take this woman to be your lawful wife and do you
promise before God and these witnesses, to love her, comfort her, honor and
keep her in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others keep thee only
unto her so long as you both shall live?
The man shall answer, I do.
To the woman: Do you take this man to be your lawful husband and do you
promise before God and these witnesses that you will love, honor, and keep
him in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others keep thee only
unto him so long as you both shall live?
The woman shall answer, I do.
(If the parties wish to use the ring, the minister shall instruct the man to
place the ring on the third finger of the woman's left hand and hold as he
repeats after the minister):
"With this ring I thee wed and with all my worldly goods I thee endow, in
the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Ghost, Amen." (Or
according to the creed of the parties contracting).
Inasmuch as this man and this woman have in the presence of God and these
witnesses consented together to be joined in the lawful bonds of matrimony
and thereto have given and pledged their troth each to the other (and if a
ring is used: have declared the same by giving and accepting a ring), I now
according to the ordinances of God and in the name of the State of Alabama,
pronounce them husband and wife. "What therefore God hath joined together
let no man put asunder."
And now may the God of peace prosper you and bless you in this new re-
lation, and may the grace of Jesus Christ abound unto you now and always.
A Suggested ULC Marriage Service
If it were possible to begin this ceremony by gathering all our wishes of
happiness for _______________ and _______________ from all present here...
if we could gather together those precious wishes of affection and our very
fondest hopes and turn them into music, we would be listening now to a most
inspiring anthem, where it would be composed of the most harmonious notes
possible to produce.
Even though this is not possible, just speaking of it should assure _______
________ and _______________ that our hearts are attuned to theirs in these
moments so meaningful to all of us for "what greater thing is there for two
human souls than to feel that they are joined together to strengthen each
other in all labor, to minister to each other in all sorrow, to share with
each other in all gladness."
Marriage is an act of faith and a personal commitment as well as a moral and
physical union between the parties. Marriage has been described as the best
and most important relationship that can exist between two human beings; the
construction of their love and trust into a single growing energy of
spiritual life, it is a moral commitment that requires and deserves daily
attention since no earthly happiness exceeds that of reciprocal satisfaction
in the conjugal state. Marriage should be a life-long consecration to the
ideal of loving kindness, backed by the will to make it last.
We read in "The Prophet":
"True love gives nothing but itself
And takes nothing but from itself
Love does not possess, not would it be possessed
For love is sufficient unto love.
Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself,
To awake at dawn with winged heart and
Give thanks for another day of loving.
To rest at noon and meditate love's esctasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude,
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved
in your heart
And a song of praise upon your lips."
_______________, will you take _______________ to be your wedded wife, to
love, to cherish, to continuously bestow upon her your heart's deepest
devotion? and _______________, will you take _______________, to be your
wedded husband, to love, to cherish, to continuously bestow upon him your
heart's deepest devotion?
Please hold hands and repeat after me: "_______________, you are consecrated
to me now as my wife this day forward, to love, to cherish, and to have and
to hold, for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sickness and in
health, in sadness and in joy, to care and share together as long as we both
shall love." Amen.
And, _______________, you are consecrated to me now as my husband, from
this day forward, to love, to cherish, and to have and to hold, for richer,
for poorer, for better, for worse, in sickness and in health, in sadness and
in joy, to care and share together as long as we both shall love."
What token of you devotion do you offer your beloved?
May these rings be blessed as the symbol of this affectionate unity. These
two lives are now joined in one unbroken circle. Wherever they go, may they
always return to one another in their togetherness. May these two in turn
find in each other the love for which all men and women yearn. May they
grow in understanding and in compassion. May they grow in understanding
and in compassion, May the home they establish together be such a place of
sanctuary that many will find there a friend. May these rings, on their
fingers, symbolize the touch of the spirit of love in the heart.
(Hand the ring to groom...) _______________, in placing this ring on
_______________'s finger, repeat after me "_______________, I give you this
ring as the pledge of my love and as the symbol of our unity". Amen.
Inasmuch as _______________ and _______________ have consented together in
marriage before this company, have pledged their faith and declared their
unity by each giving and receiving a ring -- and are now joined in mutual
esteem and devotion; I, as an ordained Minister of the ULC, pronounce that
they are husband and wife together -- and offer them the Benediction of the
"Now you will feel no rain,
For each of you will be shelter to the other.
Now you will feel no cold,
For each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there is no more loneliness for you
Now there is no more loneliness.
Now you are two bodies,
But there is only one life before you.
Go now to your dwelling place,
To enter into the days of you togetherness.
And may your days be good and long upon this earth!"